Changes are a constant. How true. I was reminded of this once again as many events simultaneously unfolded in all quarters of my life recently.
As I looked back on the ups and downs, one phrase kept popping into my mind – “C’est la vie”. A few weeks earlier, my child asked me what that meant.
Yes, life holds its mysteries and wonders. We need to fully embrace every moment, as a gift, as a present. Admittedly, it’s not easy all the time, but that’s life.
“Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them; that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.” – Lao Tzu
As a parent, I often wonder if I get too anxious, about the past and about the future. Yet, what I really need to do is to live in the present. Be fully present for myself, my children and my family.
Coping with changes can be distracting indeed. It probably requires the strength of a bull, the might of a lion and the sturdiness of an elephant. But most aptly, it probably requires us to be like water – fluid and flowing yet strong and living.
“Water is the softest thing, yet it can penetrate mountains and earth. This shows clearly the principle of softness overcoming hardness.” – Lao Tzu
So let us, as parents, focus on the present and treasure our family moments!
Our previous post was about the superpower of love. By chance, I asked my kids if they could write a short poem about love. The elder one came up with a haiku, and the younger one turned in two verses. And here there are – I hope you like them!
Superheroes are probably part of many parents’ growing up memories. Likewise for the kids today, these fantasy tales of heroism and against all odds, fill up many bedtime stories or TV time.
Superheroes have lots of power – smashing through big rocks, flying through the air, blasting through the ground, freezing things, and more.
But what’s the most “super” power of them all? That was the question my child asked me one day.
Love was my response without hesitation.
My child’s eyes lit up and said “I knew it all along!”
Children love naturally and unconditionally. As parents, we need to let them flourish, not smother. Because love will be the equalizer, and when we go through good times and bad times, it will bring us through our journey positively.
Some simple ideas to nurture the love in your kids could range from showing how they care for Mother Earth to making a card for someone they love. Read more in this post about hands-on activities for kids.
There is always time for love in the family.
Happy International Women’s Day to all mommies, daughters, wives, aunties, grandmothers!
This year’s theme is Be Bold For Change. As a parent in today’s uncertain times, this is very apt. We, as parents, have to be brave to embrace and accept the changing world around us. Our kids are growing up in a world that is vastly different from what we went through in our childhood. By being open to changes, we can help our kids better.
Being bold needs the qualities of resiliency and empathy – and these are characteristics that we need to inculcate in our children from young.
Studies are showing the mindfulness can increase resiliency. We should start looking at helping our kids to develop mindfulness in their daily lives.
In Danish schools, empathy is embedded into the school curriculum. Check out what that means in this article.
But what will be constant, despite the changes in the world around us, will be the unconditional love in the family. So let us protect our loved ones, and strengthen our family bonds.
Strike a pose! Not for the camera, but for your body, mind and soul. Yes, we are talking about yoga!
Benefits of practicing yoga are already pretty well-documented, and a search on the Internet will throw up many articles. From keeping calm to learning to focus, we cannot argue with the good effects of yoga.
This can be a good parent-child bonding activity too. Partner poses can be modified so that parent and child can practice together.
Here are some resources you may find useful to get you started:
If you are keen to give it a try, come over to our March 11 family retreat!